Continuing our series on the presuppositions of NLP, today’s musing starts by inviting us to consider that “every behaviour has a positive intention.”
Our actions are a consequence of us wanting to achieve something that we value and that will benefit us in some way. This presupposition separates the person from their behaviour. A person’s intention is positive, however choice of action may be limited, often by their life experiences. As we shared in last weeks musing How Flexible are You?, by developing flexibility we are able to increase our choice of behaviour in any situation. So next time you are shocked by someone’s behaviour, just spend a moment to consider what was their positive intent?
Our next belief considers that “people have all the resources they need or can create them”, a valuable belief to help us maintain a resourceful state. Next time you feel stuck remember there are no unresourceful people, only unresourceful states of mind!
… and finally this week, one of my favourite presuppositions, “there is no such thing as failure, only feedback.” How often do you criticise yourself for “getting it wrong”? Developing this belief prevents a lot of disappointment and helps us maintain a more resourceful state. Failure when reframed as learning, provides us with the energy and resourcefulness to do amazing things. To quote Thomas A. Edison:
“I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”
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