Raise Your Game

Our series on the presuppositions of NLP, continues today with

“If it’s possible in the world then it’s possible for me,
when I discover the ‘how’.”

For every one of our skills, talents or ability we have developed a strategy to execute it.  Sometimes our strategies are highly effective, and at other times they may be flawed!  NLP teaches us how to break down and identify each stage of a strategy so we can model how we do what we do.  The focus in NLP is to notice what we, and others, do really well and model excellence.  Once we know the steps for a strategy we can then teach it to others.

Our second belief today is:

“People work perfectly, and occasionally they have an issue or challenge to resolve.”

None of us are broken! We operate perfectly, however, some of our strategies for how we do something may be poorly designed and ineffective. NLP is all about modeling strategies of excellence, to find out how we and others do things well.  Once we can determine how we do something, then we can change our strategy to be more useful and desirable. We are then perfect people operating better strategies!

So how can you raise your game this week?  What and who will you model to improve a strategy that is holding you back?

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Stay Resourceful

Continuing our series on the presuppositions of NLP, today’s musing starts by inviting us to consider that “every behaviour has a positive intention.”

Our actions are a consequence of us wanting to achieve something that we value and that will benefit us in some way.  This presupposition separates the person from their behaviour.  A person’s intention is positive, however choice of action may be limited, often by their life experiences.  As we shared in last weeks musing How Flexible are You?, by developing flexibility we are able to increase our choice of behaviour in any situation.  So next time you are shocked by someone’s behaviour, just spend a moment to consider what was their positive intent?

Our next belief considers that “people have all the resources they need or can create them”, a valuable belief to help us maintain a resourceful state. Next time you feel stuck remember there are no unresourceful people, only unresourceful states of mind!

… and finally this week, one of my favourite presuppositions, “there is no such thing as failure, only feedback.”  How often do you criticise yourself for “getting it wrong”?  Developing this belief prevents a lot of disappointment and helps us maintain a more resourceful state.  Failure when reframed as learning, provides us with the energy and resourcefulness to do amazing things.  To quote Thomas A. Edison:

“I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”

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How flexible are you?

Have you ever noticed how by changing the way you act, changes the way you think and feel… and if we change the way we think, our bodies change?  It’s not possible to change one without affecting the other.  Try it now – if you slump into a chair, your energy slumps and yet sit up attentively and you feel alert.

The presupposition in NLP is that “mind and body are parts of the same system… change one and you change the other.”  Knowing this you can manage your state.  Need to feel confident?  Change your posture and look confident and notice you will feel it.

Consider now, how will this presupposition help you through your day?

Having worked with the previous presupposition you are more able to manage your state and develop your flexibility.  Behaving flexibly and having a flexible attitude is at the heart of our next presupposition, “the person with the greatest flexibility in thinking and behaviour is likely to have the most influence.” If you learn to respond to situations flexibly, you will create greater choice and you’re more likely to get your outcome.

Share with us, where would being flexible lead to a better outcome for you today?

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